You may be saying one thing but you are conveying a completely different idea with your body language. Communication is more than the spoken word. As you are speaking to someone you are sending their subconscious mind clues that have nothing to do with what you are saying.
For example, let’s say you are trying to convey a message that you are open to someone’s idea. If you are standing with your arms folded across your chest, you are telling them through your body language that you are not really open to their ideas. Knowing what your body language is saying, can make a big difference in how you are perceived by others and make you aware as to whether you are conveying the right messages. Here are some key points communicated in this infographic.
1) Clenched Fists Are a ‘No No’.
Instead of standing or sitting with your hands closed up, use them when you talk. Using your hands when you speak shows people that you have nothing to hide. It also conveys your personality as being lively and energetic.
2) Shifty Eyes Are a No Go.
Make eye contact. Studies have shown and been widely spread so many people know about them that people that shift their eyes to the right are lying. To avoid the impression that you may be not being honest avoid shifting your eyes when you speak to someone, use eye contact.
3) Assume a Neutral Position in Your Chair.
When seated do not lean to far back in a slouched position it makes you look bored and sends the signal that you are not really listening however you also have to avoid leaning to forward in your chair because that can look aggressive.
4. Don’t Bounce Your Foot Or Your Leg.
Don’t jiggle your foot or bounce your leg it sends the signal that you are anxious. Keep your feet both planted firmly on the ground. It sends the signal that you are firm in your position and that you are not apprehensive at all.
5) Relax When You Speak.
Slow your speech so that it is understandable. Make eye contact but do not stare at the person that is talking, it is fine to make eye contact than look away. Use good articulation when you speak and nod your head in agreement to show that you are engaged in the conversation.